We all have moments where we need someone to save us. Fess up, people, we all need a hand every now and then, even you superhero type.
I tend to sentimentalize, maybe even sensationalize, many of these moments and especially those few special people who offered their hand, whether they knew it at the time or not. I am truly thankful, even if my memory truly is crap.
I remember weirdly vague moments. They are the moments that I carry with me. Those moments I know for certain have shaped who I am today. Moments I wish I could rewind and express to the other person how thankful I am and how they were game changers for me.
A specific smile.
A special delivery in the post.
A harsh and defining word of correction offered in love.
A teacher who cared enough to ask.
A friend who never asks, but always receives you in whatever state you turn up.
A friend safe enough and patient enough to listen as silent tears fall.
An altogether unexpected phone call that makes everything better.
An understanding shoulder that needs no words.
I feel fortunate enough to have encountered repeatedly throughout my life those special people who've acted as angels in specific situations, whether those people were just passing through or permanent fixtures.
Like I said I tend to sensationalize and over romanticize many of those game changer moments, especially with the gift of hindsight in play.
I guess my point is that we all need help now and then.
I confess I suck at asking. I suck at needing help, and I will likely turn down help or try to bite your head off if you push me or go ahead and do it without my knowledge...just ask my mom. (Sorry about that one mom....again.)
Anyway, we all need someone to save us. We were not created do it on our own. That's what I've come to learn, and though I know this, it doesn't make it easy going forward. It's that constant battle between the head and the heart, between your independent and rebellious will versus sound reason.
Asking for help takes humility.
It takes admitting you're not right, or have it all together, or are perhaps not fully equipped or prepared to handle what lies ahead, or at least that is what I am somehow able to convince myself....are you any different?
Accepting the helps takes vulnerability, and man oh man, that's a tall order all too often.
The thing is we need to be reminded of and to embrace these big concepts and stop thinking about them as weakness or lacking, because, in fact, they are beautiful, growth inducing and imperative character builders.
I don't know about you but I want my character built, sculpted and redefined.
If you get that lucky chance to thank one of those special "helpers" in your life, take it, say thank you. It could be a game changer for them!
Yikes. Those are all seriously big things. I guess you could say that's the way I tend to be! (Sorry, it was right there, and I am definitely dorky that way!) I couldn't decide between these two so I didn't. Good stuff!
Cheers!
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